I keep having this feeling that I’m ready to make a big change. But at the same time feeling that I’m not really ready.
That’s the “Getting ready to get ready” stage.
Yeah, and what’s that about? Because everybody is going to want to know how do I get ready as quickly as possible?
It’s a pacing step that’s necessary because when you have those kinds of massive jumps that are life-changing (I call them jumps to hyperspace), you can’t sustain those kinds of jumps one after the other, after the other, because part of the self disintegrates in that process. What’s not used starts disintegrating.
If you go from jump to jump to jump, there’s such a large disintegration without a chance to adjust to what that means and make that spiritual connection. It can devolve into craziness because it’s just too much loss, too much change. Too much. And if there isn’t a really solid foundation that’s been built up over a long period of time to handle that, it backfires. It will wind up setting you back because not only can you not grasp what’s happened, but you’ve lost the grasp of everything that’s brought you to where you are, and it all just seems like crazy land.
That’s one of the potential downfalls. But it would be so rare for somebody to have that kind of experience that would completely shatter the ego, because the jumps would be too fast.
That’s what “the getting ready to get ready” is for, it works as the brakes. It’s a pacing so that you can’t zoom ahead 1000 miles an hour because you can’t physically sustain that. So your subconscious will put the brakes on. It will bring in fear, it will bring in doubt, it will bring in rationalization. All of these things are brakes to help you get your bearings again.
Where this can ultimately become a real problem is if you never take your foot off the brake again. That’s what a lot of people do. They get scared and that’s it. The brake gets slammed and frozen, and then that person is an immovable force.
That’s a bit of what’s happening around the world with the way people are breaking up into tribes now, with this putting the brakes on what they decide is reality. It becomes this total self-identification that if they are not that, they are nothing. Because everybody wants to be something. They want to be connected.
As everything is falling apart, the natural inclination of human nature is to look for something to grab onto–other people, a thought, an idea, a platform. So that they can maintain some connection to the ego.
In that student’s case, she’s actually ready for the next jump but she doesn’t know how to make it. So I talked about how to trigger the jump. The homework for that is simple.
Go back and look through all of these experiences you’ve had, how they have lined up, and how that’s brought change in your life. Then look for the thread that runs through that. Then you can start seeing what the triggers have been to make a jump happen. Then you’ll be able to start setting them up for yourself.
Even then, most people will be afraid. I could have told her last night, Do this one thing, and you can have as many jumps as you want. She wouldn’t be able to do it.
While it’s clear to me where she’s going and what she needs to do, I can’t tell her because it would be too big of a jump for her to take right now. She would want to. She would like the idea of it, and then it would become a fantasy and a wish-fulfillment, and she wouldn’t bring it into reality.
So that’s the downside of telling people. It’s like, “Oh, I like that. That makes me feel good. That makes me feel important. OK, I’m done.”
That’s another way people put on brakes is “let me just live in the fantasy.”
The best method for moving past the “Getting ready to get ready” stage is to keep a journal, start identifying the triggers, and then learn how to set them for yourself going forward.